Everyone knows that change is hard

Motivational Interviewing (“MI”) is a communication style that health professionals use to talk with patients about making healthy changes like reducing drug and alcohol use, taking medications regularly, or other lifestyle improvements.

I have adapted MI so that anyone - not just doctors and therapists - can use these skills to make hard talks easier. The building blocks are simple: approaching a topic with curiosity, asking good questions, listening carefully, repeating back what you heard, and giving advice effectively.

Through my writing, e-course, speaking, and teaching, I am proud to have introduced these powerful concepts to audiences all over the world. I’ve worked with parents, teachers, doctors, athletic coaches, managers, and financial advisors to improve their communication and inspire positive changes among students, athletes, patients, employees, and borrowers.

Curious whether MI might be helpful for you or your organization? Browse the work samples below and get in touch to learn more.

What is Motivational Interviewing?

Motivational interviewing or “MI” is an evidence-based communication style widely used by counselors, nurses, and other health professionals to talk about making healthy changes or committing to treatment. MI is based on the premise that the best way to influence another person’s behavior is by respecting their autonomy and creating space for them to explore their own ambivalence and (hopefully) motivation for change. Research shows that when professionals use MI, patients are more likely to make healthy changes like reducing smoking and drinking.

In our roles as parents, teachers, clinicians, coaches, or managers, we learn that we have limited control over other people’s behaviors. Even against the backdrop of impending consequences or rewards, people might just go their own way. Baffling! But when we leverage trust and relationship, we are more likely to have meaningful conversations and influence over about important decisions. The stronger your relationships, the more people will care about your opinions and follow your advice.

Motivational interviewing offers a toolbox of skills for escaping destructive power struggles and building partnership. Recognizing the relevance of MI for both families and professional settings, I created an accessible curriculum so that anyone can learn motivational interviewing skills and use them to have successful conversations about virtually anything.

How can I learn Motivational Interviewing?

If you are struggling to be a positive influence in a young person’s life and would like to learn MI skills, here are some resources:

FREE e-course: The School of Hard Talks Online

The School of Hard Talks Online is a FREE e-course that you can do at your own pace to learn MI skills. This e-course has 7 modules, each of which takes about 10 minutes to complete. You can view the modules as many times as you like.

Read The School of Hard Talks: How to Have Real Conversations with Your (Almost Grown) Kids

Published in 2023 by Penguin Random House/Sasquatch Books, my book brings the science and practice of motivational interviewing to the people who need it most: parents! I know I may be biased, but I think it’s a great book. It is short, moving, and very readable. In the book, I offer realistic examples and a simple five-step guide for any “hard talk.” You will recognize your family in this book. Order here.

One-on-One Coaching in MI skills

Contact me if you would like to work with me to learn motivational interviewing - either on Zoom or in person.

MI Training for Your Organization

I offer motivational interviewing training and consultation to professionals and organizations that would like to learn new strategies to communicate about tricky topics.

I truly love to hear people’s ideas about why and how they might like to use MI. Don’t be shy!! Contact me to start a discussion about MI training or consultation for your organization.